This post was influenced by Chrystinas post a couple weeks ago. I loved the idea of it and wanted to do one myself. At this point I have been out of college for over 4 years as well, and a lot has been learned in that time.
Partying get’s old. Yes I said it. I loved my college lifestyle, and even lived it a bit afterward, but the honest truth is creative hobbies, and life pursuits are so much more fulfilling, which leads me to the next thing….
Experiences are worth more than things. I’m by no means saying that you have to spend all your money on a trip to Europe (though that’s really awesome), but my favorite memories are rope swinging into the river in Chucks Hometown, getting stuck in the mud in a back field with friends, adopting Brody, walking on the Cliffs of Moher in Ireland, lingering over dinner with Chuck, music and talking over campfires with friends, New year’s mishaps and potlucks, motor bike rides, hiking in the high peaks, teaching friends to cook, etc. I think you get the idea.
There is no comparison. This is something that I am still struggling with, it’s a constant struggle. I see friends with big houses and all of the gadgets and I’m over here with my broken phone, and hand me down clothes, still pinching pennies for that someday house. I will get there in my own time and in my own way. I don’t know their entire story, maybe they have tons of debt, maybe they are just lucky, but how do I know that they are happy? I am happy. I have something to work for that keeps me going and an amazing support system and really that’s all I need.
A good bath and hot tea solve everything. Ok maybe not everything, but taking some time away to think it through and make a plan really do make a difference.
Hangry is a thing, and one should honor it.
Just because it looks good on paper doesn’t mean that it is
the best option. This is another tough one for me. I am very much an analytical thinker and I like facts to support all decisions, but sometimes you just need the feels. I’ve made some pretty bad decisions on paper, like taking a new job at a pay cut, moving to a more expensive community to avoid a longer drive, and plenty of others. The thing is that these decisions are the ones that make me happy they reduce stress and to me that’s worth its weight in gold.
the best option. This is another tough one for me. I am very much an analytical thinker and I like facts to support all decisions, but sometimes you just need the feels. I’ve made some pretty bad decisions on paper, like taking a new job at a pay cut, moving to a more expensive community to avoid a longer drive, and plenty of others. The thing is that these decisions are the ones that make me happy they reduce stress and to me that’s worth its weight in gold.
Being loud doesn’t always get you what you want. In fact most of the time killing them with kindness gets it done faster and better.
Good food and exercise make all the difference. I will be the first to admit that comfort food is where it’s at, however I have also learned that all the rich, carb loaded bad for you food needs to be balanced out with good wholesome healthy food. Otherwise my body is prone to get sick more, ache more, and I feel bloated and grumpy way more often. Same thing goes with exercise, I definitely don’t need to work out as hardcore as I did in college, but lack of exercise for me means lack of sleep, and eventual
soreness. My body needs at least a weekly workout to be happy.
soreness. My body needs at least a weekly workout to be happy.
Retirement must be planned for. Seriously do the math to figure out how much you will need it’s terrifying.
I am not an extrovert, but I need social interaction. After and
when Chuck and I first moved in together I went through a time where I didnt see many people aside from my immediate family, and after a while I started to get grumpy and anxious. Weird right? Chuck is an introvert and is perfectly happy to not see other people that often. In the last few years I have made it a point to have holiday gatherings with friends, game nights, and dinner date nights. I swear these little things make all the difference.
when Chuck and I first moved in together I went through a time where I didnt see many people aside from my immediate family, and after a while I started to get grumpy and anxious. Weird right? Chuck is an introvert and is perfectly happy to not see other people that often. In the last few years I have made it a point to have holiday gatherings with friends, game nights, and dinner date nights. I swear these little things make all the difference.
I will never be good at any one thing and that’s just fine. I have so many friends that have amazing talents, whether it be art, music, management, math, or whatever. I will never have anyone thing that I am good at. For starters I don’t stick with anything long enough to ever get really good at it, as a result I am kind of good at a number of things. It took me a while to own this about myself but now I think it’s kind of cool.
How about you anything stand out in your mind as something that you learned since college?